After watching this video, it just suddenly hit me! What’s wrong with men nowadays? Slowly it started to make me think & the more I think about it, the more disappointed I feel? Unfortunately in the past 21 years of my life, I have encounter numerous jerks along the way who treat women like nothing. That alone pretty much destroys whatever hope I have left in men. *sigh* Then… there is a question which I often receive from people.
“What do I look for in a man?”
I think this is one of the most frequently asked question I’ve encountered since my relationship ended last year. A number of you would have know who I was with previously & no surprise about that since he is a quite well known blogger. Don’t get me wrong, he is not a bad guy, in fact he is really a good guy. Just that we couldn’t solve the problems we had with each other & ourselves so it was best that we parted ways. So back to the question, “what do I look for in a man?”. Actually the qualities I look for a man are the qualities which are generally tend to be lacking these days. So that pretty much explains why I still remain single until now. Let’s face it, men in this day & age aren’t like the men 70, 80 years ago where they are chivalrous, selfless, hardworking, fit & patient. In fact, these are the main qualities I look for in a man. It’s like the minimum requirement that my man must have or not he would be kick out of the list. *evil grins*
#Chivalrous. In my opinion, this would be the most lacking quality in men by far. Well if you don’t know what it means, chivalrous is defined as considerate & courteous to women as well as being exceptionally polite & attentive to women. How often do men do that around women nowadays? Especially among my peers, it is indeed a rare scene to be seen. Also we women do not expect men to act out exaggeratedly, a simple act would be more than suffice such as opening the door for us, holding our bags & pulling out the chair for us to sit; these are very simple actions men can do to show that they are chivalrous.
#Not selfish. Sadly to say that most men are selfish. They tend put themselves first among everyone & everything else without taking into consideration of how others would feel. I have personally witness a number of my girlfriends who were & still are being cold treated by their boyfriends. It’s like when their boyfriends need them, they will find them or not they won’t even bother to give them a call nor a text even most times. I understand that men need their freedom so do women but men need to know what’s the limit & arrange their priority accordingly. Personally for me, I can’t stand it if my boyfriend treats me as his second option.
#Hardworking. I absolutely can’t stand it if my man just laze around the whole day & does nothing. I don’t care if you’re the son of a multimillionaire; if you are not working & using your parents money, I won’t be impress on how much you spend in front of me because it isn’t your hard earned money. I always pay high respect to those men who work extremely hard to support their family. Whatever they earn, they give it to their family & keep none for themselves. I used to see this quite often during my grandparents time but now, in this time & society, I rarely see that happen anymore.
#Fit. Health is very important regardless what others say about it. A good health allows anyone to do anything they want. Men tend to let themselves go, as in they don’t care what kind of harmful stuffs they put in their bodies. As long they are enjoying it, they couldn’t care much less. Drinking, smoking & some worse cases, taking drugs; all these activities are actually very harmful to the bodies but hey, do men care about it? I’m not saying all men but generally most men don’t put any serious thoughts about it. It's alright to drink & smoke but do it in moderation. I don’t need a man who has 6 or 8 packs (that would be an added bonus. :P) but overall a man who is fit & healthy.
#Grooming. I do consider myself to be a hygiene freak but I don’t expect the same thing for my man. I know it’s a normal thing that men usually don’t care how they look because they think they can always go for the messy badass look. Yes for some guys but it’s a definitely NO to certain guys who think they can pull it off. Men, we don’t expect you to groom yourself until extreme neat & tidy but what we expect is at least to be presentable. Keeping long nails, having facial hairs all over your face, smelly body odor (which you think smells good when it’s so not), wearing the same shirt for two, three days consecutively (that you think no one realizes); all these turn off the women around you! *ewwww*
Men, don’t take it personally because I’m not saying all these to insult anyone. These are just my personally opinions that I would like to get off my chest. Also at the same time to answer everyone’s question at one go. LOL. Personally I would like to know what you guys have to say after watching the VIDEO. Girls are welcome to of course. hehe… I know many of you surely have a thing or two to say on this matter so feel free to comment at the bottom of the post. ;)
